Isn't it interesting that our resolutions are usually made in regard to something we really don't want to do? It's as if resolving to do them is somehow going to make us do them. That is one reason resolutions don't work very well.
“I want to lose fifteen pounds.” No we don't—we want to have lost them! We want very little, or may even resist, the actual process of losing the weight. That may be one reason we find it so hard to keep that resolution!
“I will exercise more.” A good resolve, but a hazy one. Unless we have a plan—not hugely ambitious, but a certain workout, however mild or intense, at a definite time and place—it will be pretty difficult to stick to the vague intention.
“I won't be late to work any more.” Excellent! But if we are part of a busy household and drive to the job at rush hour, we are not always going to be in control. Maybe better would be, “I will do my very best to leave the house by such-and-such time.”
How about this? Resolve to do some of the things that enhance your well-being—physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Not such difficult things that you get off track the first week in January; things you really want to do but may have been reluctant to give yourself that “permission.” Such as, “I will eat a piece of dark chocolate, just one, every day.” “I will smile in the mirror and tell myself something good about myself every day.” “I will work my favorite newspaper puzzle every week.” “I will read at least one uplifting book every month.”
Doesn't that sound like a HAPPY new year?
Marjorie
Friday, December 31, 2010
Friday, December 24, 2010
A Family Christmas
I have been away from this blog for awhile, tending to some other writing projects. I hope to be more attentive to the call of this work too, so keep checking back!
Merry Christmas! Yesterday, my supervisor at work was making the rounds of our department where there are many desks and work stations, greeting us with holiday wishes. After stopping at one desk, she asked us all, “How many in this room have family issues to deal with over the holidays?” A chorus of voices and raised hands answered in the affirmative. I did not, and thought again how grateful I am for a loving and supportive family. There will not be many expensive presents, but we'll not go away grumpy and disappointed! There will be plenty of warmth and love for everyone. There will not be a big dinner, but rather a plentiful “brunch” spread of simple food. (More sausage gravy, anyone? Another helping of fried apples?)
I have just returned from a Christmas Eve service, which I attended at 3 p. m. since I don't any longer drive after dark. I went to a church other than my own, so I was not sure what to expect. I came away with tears of emotion on my cheeks. A pianist played many traditional carols before the service began, and a rousing rendition of “Go Tell It on the Mountain” as were were dismissed! The prayers and singing were meaningful, and I participated in the communion service as well. The sanctuary has only one window, a large stained glass one behind the platform, so it was quite dark enough for the candle-lighting ceremony. All in all, it was a lovely Christmas celebration with the larger family of faith.
I realize the holidays may not be that easy for everyone. Some people dread the holidays because it will mean “pretending nice” to people they don't really like. Sometimes even the sounds and smells of Christmas are enough to bring back unhappy memories of occasions past. In either case, one cannot just turn off the “trigger” and not care that it was there to cause distress. Perhaps it would help to focus, not on a troubling situation or an unhappy memory, but on the simple fact that Christmas reminds us once again of the Savior who came into an earthly family to lead us out of darkness into His light.
Now I'm off to wrap gifts, and once in awhile I'll check Santa's travel progress on the NORAD site!
Marjorie
Merry Christmas! Yesterday, my supervisor at work was making the rounds of our department where there are many desks and work stations, greeting us with holiday wishes. After stopping at one desk, she asked us all, “How many in this room have family issues to deal with over the holidays?” A chorus of voices and raised hands answered in the affirmative. I did not, and thought again how grateful I am for a loving and supportive family. There will not be many expensive presents, but we'll not go away grumpy and disappointed! There will be plenty of warmth and love for everyone. There will not be a big dinner, but rather a plentiful “brunch” spread of simple food. (More sausage gravy, anyone? Another helping of fried apples?)
I have just returned from a Christmas Eve service, which I attended at 3 p. m. since I don't any longer drive after dark. I went to a church other than my own, so I was not sure what to expect. I came away with tears of emotion on my cheeks. A pianist played many traditional carols before the service began, and a rousing rendition of “Go Tell It on the Mountain” as were were dismissed! The prayers and singing were meaningful, and I participated in the communion service as well. The sanctuary has only one window, a large stained glass one behind the platform, so it was quite dark enough for the candle-lighting ceremony. All in all, it was a lovely Christmas celebration with the larger family of faith.
I realize the holidays may not be that easy for everyone. Some people dread the holidays because it will mean “pretending nice” to people they don't really like. Sometimes even the sounds and smells of Christmas are enough to bring back unhappy memories of occasions past. In either case, one cannot just turn off the “trigger” and not care that it was there to cause distress. Perhaps it would help to focus, not on a troubling situation or an unhappy memory, but on the simple fact that Christmas reminds us once again of the Savior who came into an earthly family to lead us out of darkness into His light.
Now I'm off to wrap gifts, and once in awhile I'll check Santa's travel progress on the NORAD site!
Marjorie
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